Thursday, April 19, 2012

Promote Yourself Through Rejection

Greetings Happy People,

When was the last time you ever had a shot at a promotion?

It could be at work, or an organization, in a team, or anywhere else.

I have a shot at many promotions right now. One involves my job. Another involves an organization I belong to. And another involves my personal life as I tie the knot.

Yes, there are many opportunities on the horizon for Mr. I-I-I and I am grateful to take part in them.

Do I hope to get promoted in whatever I do? Of course!! Every promotion offers new challenges, different steps, and plenty of opportunities to grow. I always win when I grow. Whether I am accepted or rejected, I can take it as growing lessons.

As I look forward to these potential opportunities, I am reminded on how others take promotional opportunities way too seriously. For them, it seems like a life and death situation. I have seen people throw themselves into heart attacks, grievances, bitterness, and other negative viewpoints. Thanks to this, their trust is destroyed, their hopes faded away, and the visions were blinded.

While it is true that these people take rejection very hard, they also fail to realize how much negativity they created for themselves. It may be true that they deserve to get promoted, but they are relying on others to do their own promoting. This happens.

If I was a few years younger, I would fall victim to the venomous sting of rejections. I would create my bitterness about people, places, and things. I would let the door close on whatever future opportunities  come my way. I would let the anger, fears, hatred, doubts, and turmoil, eat me up until I am engulfed in my own woe.

Thank goodness I grew up.

While it may be good to get that promotion from others, it is better to promote yourself first. No matter what happens to me, I can always learn from any promotion or rejection that comes my way. I can see that if something wasn't meant for me, a better opportunity will come my way. All I have to do is believe it and find ways to make it happen. If I can promote myself as an individual, I will be better off in the long run.

How does one promote him or herself? There are many good ways to do that. Take part in things that will help you grow as a person. Whether it be education, visualization, cooperation, or imagination, you can become your own creation. There is no crime in boosting your own personal stock.

Some people think that they have control over whom to promote and whom to reject. It is only true if you let them. Never let anyone else determine your own self worth. It doesn't matter what one's race, gender, or creed is, promoting that person in the mirror pays off in the long run.

Rejection may be a part of life, but it doesn't have to part YOUR life.

What are you going after you get rejected? Will you promote yourself? The answer is up to you.

That is all I have for now. Thank you for your time and attention.


Jesse I-I-I

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Trust Me!! I Won't Kill You!!

Greetings Happy People,

Have you ever been mistaken for someone else?

Well, I have and one of which took me by surprise.

Just for curiosity, I decided to type in my name on the Google search engine. And I found so many interesting things!! For starters, I have seen my handsome self in a suit and tie. I have also seen a picture of my first ever published book "Greetings Happy People" (which you can get on or - wink wink).

I also saw my name associated with an awesome communication and leadership organization that one can join and have fun with amazing friends (for good times - click here baby). There were also pictures of Oakley sunglasses - no relation.

As I scrolled down the page, I found an interesting story. It was about a 36-year old man named Jesse Oakley.

Hey!! Wait a minute!! I'm Jesse Oakley and I'm 36 years old!! What are the odds?

As I read the story, I notice that this 36-year old Jesse Oakley is not the person I would meet anytime in the future.


Well, number one - he lived in Minnesota.

Number two - he is dead.

And number three - he was responsible for a murder-suicide with his former girlfriend!!

HOLY STRAWBERRIES!! And I share a name with this dude!!

If you don't believe me, you can read the story right here (click here)

After reading this, I was thinking "I hope no one mistakes me for this guy!!"

I think it would be hard since I am alive and writing this post to you from Nevada!!

There are people that have been mistaken for someone interesting or infamous. I knew people that were mistaken as champion bird callers, sports figures, and actors in the pornography business. One way or another, mistaken identity happens.

What is the one way to cure this assumption? Instead of trying to find out who the person is via the internet, take the time to know an individual. You may be amazed with what they know, where they've been, and who they are. Believe me, it is a lot better than having to assume via online.

Heck!! If one REALLY gets to know me, they would know that the only thing I would kill are certain red fruits that I love to have on my plate (click here to find out!!).

It pays to know a person in person. Who knows?? A good friendship can be created from a simple hello!! All one has to do is have the courage and say "HI!!" You'll never know how much time you can kill.

That is all I have for now. Take care and thank you for your time and attention.

Jesse I-I-I

The Close Relative

Greetings Happy People,

I am going to write about my personal dilemma to you Happy People.
It is one that involves me and my wife to be Dana.

While this is something that is not new, I feel that it has to be brought into the light.

There is a person out there that STILL doesn’t like Dana due to how she looks on a picture. This person, who happens to be a close relative, still calls her a “fat white-trash whore that likes to suck…….”

For the past four years, this relative has not one good thing to say about my fiancĂ©e. I don’t know about you, but I am starting to get sick and tired of it. What I want to do is based on my life. I have the right to see who I want to see and be with who I want to be no matter the appearance, the age, or anything else.

This close relative has screwed up many dating opportunities that I have had before I started dating Dana. Among the good dates I had, this person always seems to find something wrong. Whether it be the skin complexion, the nationality, or age, it seemed that no one was “too good” for me to date. It was a shame because I would never know how it would turn out due to the interference this relative has caused.

When I got further away from this individual, life has started to become a little better. I made new friends, travelled to cool places, and found a person that was willing to go out with me (Dana). Everything seemed to be going so great until that same close relative decided to butt into the scene. This time, I had the power to avoid this person.

During this time, I noticed something interesting. As I take chances to open up new doors and opportunities in my life, this close relative has done the complete opposite. Even as we went through a very tough family separation, this close relative decided to stick in the same rut as before. This person would chose to sit in the house most of the day, worry about what might not come, and become angry if things did not go the way it should. When it comes to swilling alcohol and taking medication, the troubles multiply. This person can be characterized as the Perpetual Victim.

It amazes me to see this close relative try and wreck something that is good for someone else. It would not surprise me if anybody that lives in the same house with this relative moves out because they can’t take any more personal wallows and strife. I would also not be surprised if this close relative sits alone with no one to talk to because this person chooses to drive people away. It can only get worse if this person continues to stay on this track. 

As for myself, I am blessed to have good things rolling in my life. Even when I lost the Ol’ Man last February, I can still take in to account how grateful I was to have him in my life. Even when I was going through a rough month this past March, I can take into consideration that things were still going well. And now, I choose to be with good opportunities, better people, and the best fortunes that lie ahead for me.

Happy People, you have a choice on how you want to live in life. Your attitude DOES affect your altitude. You can either stay down and make things miserable for you and others OR you can turn it around and take part of the good things that are offered. I benefitted by choosing what I want to do in life and it has paid off!!

As for that close relative… can only hope how she chooses to live her life. If she keeps going the way she is going, she will have no one to blame but herself.

I made my choice. What are you going to do?

That is all I have for now. Take care and thank you for your time and attention.


Jesse I-I-I  

Monday, April 9, 2012

You Suck!!!

Greetings Happy People,

When was the last time someone told you that "You Suck?"

Was it last week, last month, last year, or any time before that?

What did you do after someone told you that?

These two words have an impact on one's life. It can either make one become better than before, or allow one to just give up.

What a person does with these two words is up to that person. Nobody else can make them feel what they want to feel.

From childhood to right now, I have been told that I sucked many times. Whether it was in sports, school, work, or any other part of my life, I have been told that I would not amount to much.

What did I do?

At first, I would believe these people and allow them to eat away at my self esteem. This would make me feel lower and more worthless than I am. Now I know better.

A good example of this was my speaking and writing. As a kid, I always had trouble when it comes to doing these two things. I got constantly corrected by teachers and humiliated by the worse teachers.

And just when you think it was worse, there were the fellow classmates. Some of them were a "complete delight." Picking on me, making me feel dumb, and adding worthlessness to my own personal value.

How did my fortunes change? Thank goodness for high school!! Those four years were seen as a rebuilding process. With the right amount of encouragement and good company, I greatly improved my writing and speaking skills. Slowly but surely, my confidence was coming back.

As I heard the "You Suck" comments throughout college, I had the nerve to just keep going. Not only was I able to further sharpen my speaking and writing skills, but also strengthened my mathematical knowledge too!! Motivation can be a powerful tool if it is correctly used.

After college, I still hear the "You Suck" comments. Although it is not as frequent as before, the negative words are still there. If there is anyone that told me how much I suck, I simply contributed that to their negativity. Like crabs in a pot, these people try to clamp on and pull me down to their level. This time, I chose not to go there.

At any given opportunity, I prefer to better myself at anything I do. It may take time, but at least I would suck less :o)

Do you have someone telling you that "You Suck?" If so, listen to them first and decide what you want to do about it. Are you going to better yourself? Are you going to let them get you down? You have that choice. Whatever you choose to do with those two words, be the best at what you do. You never know how much you can be motivated by those two words.

That is all I have for now. Take care and thank you for your time and attention.


Jesse I-I-I

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